My Attention is a GIFT, Not a GUARANTEE!

It took me a minute to find a topic for my next post. Just joking around, I finally found my next topic: Attention. I made a post not too long ago about attention. I was directly speaking to those who crave attention. Now, I’m talking to those who require attention but do not return the favor. When I refer to attention, in this context, I speak on attention in a general meaning. This is for friendships, and relationships.

Now let’s chat.

It is one thing for a person to try to get attention, but it’s a totally different thing for them not to reciprocate. Let me break it down further. It’s not okay for someone to require a friend, significant other, or acquaintance to constantly provide attention, yet cannot take a minute out of the day to do the same. Better yet, they cannot even be courteous enough to give the same amount of attention. Some people really have the game twisted.

If you are a person that has the juice (as many of us like to say), then one day you are juiceless… You need to check what you’re doing. You cannot expect for people to bend their backs trying to make you feel important, and they don’t get the same reaction. With friendships, people will not be there for you, show you the loyalty and support that you need unless you are able to match it; same for relationships.

Since the beginning of time, the world works through trade. Want something? Match my price. Period. Nothing is 80/20, everything is 50/50 – scratch that – everything is 100/100. For every action, there ought to be an equal reaction. What you put in, is what you get out.

Now it’s time to self evaluate.
-Do you wonder why people don’t treat you the same?
-Do you no longer get the attention that you once had?
-Do you have a problem with someone showing you the attention you “think” you deserve?
If you’re having a hard time answering these questions, or your answer is yes, then check what you do.

I love you all! Xo.
Tiana

Twitter: CutiePiee_

“What you grow, is based on the seed you sow.”
– Bishop Edgar Vann

*not only applicable to tithes and offering*

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The Thirst is Too Real

Why must folks be so thirsty? The world may never know.

Let me back track for those who may be a little lost… Thirsty is a term commonly used by teens to refer to the act of begging for attention or going to extreme measures to gain attention. Now back to the regularly scheduled program…

People are taking ‘Thirst’ to a new level. The things that people do to get attention is ridiculous. Especially on social media sites. Twerking videos, half naked pictures, you name it, I’ve seen it and then some. People think it cute, but it looks desperate.

We are approaching valentine’s day weekend, and I’ve seen thirst reach an all time high. Now let’s pause for the cause. Valentine’s day is meant for dedicating a day to somebody special or a significant other. Let me ask this: Why, oh why, are people begging for somebody to be their valentine? If you don’t have a significant other then follow these steps:
1) Stop the Thirst
2) Dust Yourself off
3) Wait for somebody to come, if they don’t then be happy with being with yourself (stick a pin in the underlined phrase)
4) BE YOUR OWN VALENTINE, or Treat a friend/group of friends

Trust me ya’ll it’s not the end of the world if you don’t have a valentine. No 2014 valentine? Cool. Wait patiently for somebody to come along next time. Waiting for somebody worth being a valentine is a lot better than searching for a temporary, insignificant one. Same goes for Sweetest Day!

On a normal day, its no different. I see people begging for attention; directly and indirectly. I just want some of ya’ll to know that you have to learn to be comfortable with yourself. If you are comfortable with yourself, then you won’t need – scratch that – you wouldn’t want attention. Don’t get me wrong, its always cool to ask for somebody to talk to. Doing it all the time? That’s not cool.

If you are pics or videos to bring attention to your body, you may want to check your self-esteem level (see my last post). If your begging for somebody to always talk to or chat with on social media, check your desperation level. Twerk videos every week? You just need to have a seat.

Since I’m talking about thirst, let me address how people are quick to use the word thirsty. If someone is showing interest in you, then it is NOT THIRST. Unless they blow up your phone 24/7 and they can’t catch a hint, then you may happily label them as thirsty. Now if they are genuinely showing you that they would like to get to know you, and take the time to give you the attention you are begging for, then that is labeled as caring. Half of you complain about wanting some attention and when somebody is willing to go above and beyond that, then ya’ll call them thirsty. I don’t understand that.

We, as a generation need to get it together. There is too much priority placed on gaining attention and there is no urgency to be comfortable with being with yourself. Be comfortable with the little attention you get. All attention isn’t good attention. You shouldn’t want everyone in your space because no every is benefitting you (this will be a whole other post that is coming soon). Only have a few friends or people to talk to? Make the most out of it! People please, people please, people please. Don’t let somebody special pass you by because you want to sit on your high horse and call them thirsty. Just keep that in mind.

I love you all! Xo.
Tiana

Twitter: CutiePiee_

“It’s an interesting combination: Having a great fear of being alone, and having a desperate need for solitude and the solitary experience. That’s always been a tug of war for me.”
– Jodie Foster

“I finally faced the fact that it isn’t a crime not having friends. Being alone means you have fewer problems.”
– Whitney Houston